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Sometimes, life is out of control. During these unwanted situations, you have no choice but to surrender. Without any question, you will just accept the fact that you lose.

However, surrendering is not about giving up. It is an art of allowing other beautiful things to come within. Believe it or not, surrendering is not a sign of weakness, but rather a strength.

The Basics

However, it doesn’t mean that when you have problems in life, you will easily give up. As long as you can and you are on the right side, you have to fight for whatever situation. You only need to give up if you think that there are no other means but to surrender. But, before you surrender, you have to ask yourself. What do you want to give up? Is it your career, relationship, or what? Are you ready to face its consequences?

If you want to know the real meaning of allowing and surrendering, this book serves as your guide. From its basic principles to their underlying secrets, all of them can be fully identified. All you have to do is to sit back and learn how this art of allowing and surrendering affects your life!

Figuring Out What You Truly Value

Like other people, you are also confused about what to do with your life. Before making any action, you always weigh several things. One of the hardest decisions you can make is to surrender. To surrender is to give up control or power of something to someone else. It means that you agreed to stop fighting, resisting, and hiding because you already knew that you will not succeed or win. But, before surrendering, you need to know what will be the results of your actions. You also need to know what you really value before giving up.

Knowing what you really value isn’t an easy task. Before you figure it out, you have to consider various things. If you are not sure what you want, you need a perfect guide.

For your reference, here are the things you need to consider:

What Do You Value Know What You Love to Do

Surrendering is not just about giving up your career or love issues. It is all about any situation in your life. Say, for instance, if you are a high school graduate student and your parents are forcing you to study abroad, you have to give up insisting to stay. You need to give up, especially when your parents are planning to migrate. If you love designing, you can also take courses related to the field. Then, since you need to pick only one course, you need to know which course fits your preferences and qualifications.

Watch People Around You

Through watching people around you, you can easily figure out what makes you happy. Depending on your choice, you can start mingling with your friends or other relatives. Then, you have to ask them what makes them happy. Life is too simple to handle. It is just a matter of how you manage it.

If you treasure one thing, make sure that you show that you really value it. Don’t easily give up, instead of fight for it. Once you value one thing or anything, except that you can easily decide whether you have to allow or surrender it.

Follow Your Guts

Ask yourself, what makes you happy and what objects or activities are you attracted to? If you know the answer to these questions, you can easily determine whether you are making the right decision or not. Just make sure that don’t try to force your interest. Do the things you love to enjoy your life.

Try Everything

If you can’t figure out what you really want, you have to try everything. You can try different activities like sports. You can try both activities you like and you don’t like it. While doing these things, you have a chance to discover new activities. This scheme will help you in deciding what you really want and love to do.

Analyze Yourself

To know what you really want, you have to analyze yourself. For the best guide, you can get a pencil and paper and jot down notes. If you love various things, you need to weigh which of them is the best. In life, you don’t need to get them all. You have to know when to allow or give up something.

After knowing what you truly value, your next move is to start deciding the things you want to give up. Since you hold on the things you love, expect that you are making the right choice. Like others, you will enjoy your life and you will always be happy.

Ten Tips For Reducing Stress

In this article, I’m going to cover a handful of tips and methods that you can implement into your everyday life which will help you better deal with stress and even prevent stress from invading into your happiness.

1. Breathe Deeply. Practice Breathing Techniques Regularly.

A lot of people seem to overlook how easy and useful this tactic can be for relieving stress, especially in the heat of the moment. I know, the advice “take a deep breath” may seem cliché. But it really does hold true when it comes to stress. Take a minute or two breaks from life to focus on your breathing. Sit up straight and close your eyes if possible, and put your hand on your belly.

Slowly inhale through your nose, feeling the breath of air start in your abdomen and progress it’s way to the top of your head. Next, reverse the process as you exhale through your mouth. It’s been said that deep breathing counters the effects of stress by slowing the heart rate and lowering the body’s blood pressure. Buddhist monks have been known to be very conscious of deliberate breathing during meditation because of this.

Another method you can use it to sit up in your chair with your feet flat on the floor and your hands on top of your knees. Breathe in and out slowly, with deep full breaths while also concentrating on your lungs as they expand and contract in your chest. Many doctors and researchers have actually found that shallow breathing is consistent with increased stress and deep breathing fills your blood with oxygen and in turn, helps to center your body and clear your mind.

2. Meditate For A Period Of Time In The Morning And Evening

It should come as no surprise to you that meditation is an excellent way to help relieve your stress. When performed correctly, it should release your mind and allow you to focus on peace. Many people struggle with meditation at first, because it can be a little tricky. And in all honesty, it does take a little bit of time to learn.

There are many great articles and even courses on how to meditate, but you can easily get started by simply sitting in the corner or somewhere peace, closing your eyes and listening to music, or soaking in the sounds around you. Some meditation guru will even encourage you to listen to those natural sounds during the process and to even burn some sort of incense to help break the stress that’s present in your body.

3. Listen To Music That Promotes Your Chilled Out Mood

Listening to the right music is super important when you’re trying to reduce stress in your life and find your inner balance. Some music can, in fact, heighten your stress levels when you listen to it. One type of music that researchers have proven to help stress levels is “baroque” music. This music is based around a tempo of 60 beats per minute, which coincidentally is about the rate that our heart should be.

Baroque music has actually been shown to increase the alpha waves in both the left and right sides of your brain which assist in improving your learning ability, calmness, and even your creativity. Because of this, many corporate trainers have now incorporated this style of music during memory training sessions to better assist their students in improving both their comprehension and their memory.

Of course, you should focus on the kind of music that you like and which brings comfort to you. So this point will differ depending on who you are and what your tastes are.

4. Exercise, Even If It’s Just For A Minute Or Two Each Day

Listen, exercising doesn’t have to be powerlifting at the gym or training for some sort of marathon event. A simple short stroll around the office or block, or even just standing up to stretch during a break at work can oftentimes be just the immediate stress relief you need in some situations. Getting your blood flowing releases endorphins and can actually improve your mood almost instantaneously. If you find that you have more time to exercise, that’s even better.

They say that exercising for 30 minutes per day is one of the best things you can do for both your mind and your body. Not only does it help you keep fit, but it also gets the blood pumping around in your body. While you’re doing exercises, there are chemicals being released from your brain that can elevate your mood.

5. Make It A Point To Eat Right With A Healthy Diet

Studies have linked that stress levels are directly impacted by a proper diet. The problem is that when we’re overwhelmed and stressed out, we often ignore healthy eating habits. This results in eating sugary, fatty snack foods as a quick pick-me-up to satisfy our hunger and even our mood. Try to avoid sugary snacks and plan ahead if possible.

Fruits and vegetables are obviously a great choice, and fish with higher levels of omega-3 fatty acids have also been shown to help reduce the symptoms and levels of stress. This means that a tuna sandwich is truly beneficial to both your mood and your brain as well.

6. Try To Drink At Least Eight Glass of Water Per Day

I’m sure you know this already, but without water, humans and most living things can’t survive. After all, it’s been said to be one of the most precious resources that we possess on the planet. With that said, to maintain your health, most doctors and medical professionals will recommend a MINIMUM of eight glasses of water per day. This means PLAIN WATER.

As in flavored water or coffee certainly does not count towards that goal. You’ll truly be amazed at how much better you feel and less stress you become as you hydrate more every day.

7. Limit Both Alcohol AND Coffee Consumption

Alcohol and coffee are both considered great sources of stress, seeing as they both increase the heart rate and make us more prone to stressful situations. If you can, try to limit the amount of coffee and alcohol that you consume each day, and you will almost certainly notice that your level of stress will decrease. Some researchers say that consuming one to two glasses of alcohol like red wine, per day, can be a healthy choice.

But since we’re focused on reducing stress, it’s a good idea to consult with your doctor or physician to check if this is the best decision for you. Another thing to be cautious about is that caffeine can often give you a “high” which you will become dependent on overtime. This certainly won’t be beneficial towards reducing the amount of stress that’s present in your life

8. Schedule Breaks Throughout Your Day

We all know how stressful work can be, whether it’s the environment, the coworkers, or the tasks at hand – it can all add up rather quickly. One of the biggest blunders that people make in their work-life is to neglect taking breaks throughout the day to refresh the mind. In actuality, there’s no real legal business on the planet that will require anybody to work 24 hours per day non-stop.

Researchers have actually proven that if you don’t schedule at least 1 hour for a break every day, you’re far more likely to have health issues over a prolonged period of time. Always remember that life is truly short in the grand scheme of things. Don’t waste all of your time at work. Take the time to go out and enjoy your day regardless of
where you are. Make sure that you schedule a number of (short) breaks during the workday.

Even if you just take that time to go outside for 5 minutes to get some fresh air and a drink. That sort of break will help you to clear your mind and allow you to prepare yourself to tackle the rest of the work for the day.

9. Identify At Least One Good Thing That Happened Today

This will definitely sound a bit generic in terms of advice and tips, but it’s such solid advice that if you haven’t started doing this, you really should consider it. Every evening all over the world, families and/or friends congregate in the evenings or after work and vent about their day and the events that it was made up of. However, instead of creating a negative atmosphere from the moment you walk in the door and sit down, try starting off on a different note.

Do this by exchanging good news and things that were positive about your day. It’s really not difficult at all to address the good things that happened in life, and as a result, you’ll find yourself more grateful for the things you have. You’ll also find that you’re better able to face stressors and other unfortunate occurrences in your day.

10. Be Prepared (Prepare For Tomorrow And The Future)

It’s true that nothing can be more stressful than walking into a situation being completely unprepared. That’s why you should invest some time every day towards getting ready for the following day. This could be as simple as drafting up a short to-do list and even cleaning up your environment and living area before you settle down for the evening.

Knowing that you have all of the different bases covered means that you’ll be far less likely to fret about things that need to get done in the evenings or when you’re not busy with work and other stuff. By better preparing yourself and organizing your life, you’ll give yourself a better sense that you’re fully in control of the situation and can handle it. This truly does set a positive tone for the day, evening, and future days, which in turn can help you to get far more accomplished.

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